| THE HUMAN FACTOR Sondra Dodds
at Family Service DuPage in Wheaton, IL says that those who are
depressed often feel isolated and alone, different and unusual,
misunderstood by family and friends, powerless and defeated. Many
also feel the need to hide their real feelings, even from those
they love. Those who are more willing to share their experiences
share many common experiences although each case is dramatically
different.
They share a common bond. They live in a no-man's land that's
sapping the community of its most valuable resource...competent
contributing citizens. They don't choose to live there. And they
can't will to get out of there without help.
An insidious disease, depression is multi-faceted. The onset
and the symptoms of depression are not always the same. Frequently
depression is an outward manifestation of undetected physical
illnesses such as cancer.
For some the disease can be traced to low self esteem; for others
to excessive drain on their physical health and energy or chronic
illnesses; for others to abnormally high levels of stress-related
life experiences; for others realization that life is passing
them by and their goals will never be reached.
In all instances the illness points to imbalances: physical,
mental and spiritual. A depressive illness is a "whole-body"
illness involving your body, mood, thoughts and behavior. It's
not just a passing bout with "the blues". You cannot
"will" or "wish" it away.
Rose had frightening bouts with burning sensation in all parts
of her body. It was as if her stomach, head, nerves were all "aflame".
Katherine began to withdraw from friends and acquaintances.
One Elmhurst resident tells of his experiences, "I felt
helpless and unable to cope with every day stresses. I saw myself
as worthless as a part of the community I worked for. Frequently
I entertained thoughts that my family would be better off if I
just disappeared or died. I knew I was on a self destruct kick...ignoring
my health, setting myself up for failure in my job and getting
myself in no- win situations. The harder I tried, the worse things
got in my life. I saw myself reacting to even the simplest setbacks
with uncontrollable rage."
Anna, who has been treated both in and out of the hospital for
depression said, "Over the years, I've seen a big change
in the people who are suffering depression. They're getting much
younger now and they are filled with anger."
Some deal with the constant sensation that they are "not
connected with the rest of the world" and "unimportant".
For yet others, the illness may just hover at the point where
there's a gnawing stomach ache and the constant knowledge that
"something just isn't right". Nearly all report that
their level of productivity fell dramatically. Many find that
they just "can't attend to the task at hand". In the
worst case scenario, suicide seems to offer the only way out.
The bad news is depression renders a person unable to cope adequately
with life events and, frequently, it goes undiagnosed for months
-- even years -- because the victim generally blames him or herself
for uncontrollable problems and their inability to function in
a reasonable manner. It's a vicious downward spiral that sucks
its victim into a hopeless pit of despair.
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